Everyone feels shy or unconfident from time to time. But if you find yourself consistently nervous or silent around others, check out our list of icebreakers and advice to help you overcome shyness.
Knowing What To Say
We know that sometimes it’s not other people that make you nervous, but more not knowing what you are supposed to say.
Did you know that workplace shyness, whether you’re new to an office or just uncomfortable at a work event, can make you feel isolated and lonely – leading to depression?
Stop it before it takes hold.
If you aren’t sure what to say as an icebreaker, check out these good conversation topics that can help you connect with people. Asking any of these will instantly help everyone in the room let their guards down.
- What’s your perfect weekend?
- What’s a favorite trip you’ve taken?
- What’s the funniest TV show you’ve ever seen?
- Which sport is the most exciting to watch?
Any of these topics will have you talking to strangers with ease! Plus, people will remember you as the person who got everyone talking.
You’ve probably heard the expression that you should do one thing every day that scares you.
But if you’re constantly saying no to everything that comes your way, you’re closing yourself off to others, and missing out on great opportunities to connect.
Remember, the more often you put yourself in unfamiliar situations, the faster you’ll be able to overcome feelings of shyness in the future.
Instead, try saying yes to every (reasonable) invitation or request you get in three days.
Doing so is guaranteed to make you some incredible memories, as well as to help you learn to be more confident around others – and in yourself!
Meet Different Types Of People
You likely have tons of hobbies and interests outside of work. Putting yourself in an environment where you feel more comfortable, knowledgeable about the subject, and genuinely happy to be there will definitely help you to open up to others.
Look into local book clubs, wine tasting, sporting events, or whatever else you’re into. Then, set a goal of introducing yourself to at least three new people at the next event you attend.
Not only will this help you make great connections in areas you actually care about, but it will also help you to learn that you don’t have to rely on the most basic conversation starters to form a connection with someone.
You’re Ready To Take The Room By Storm
If you suffer from shyness or social anxiety, one of the greatest comforts is knowing you’re not alone.
In fact, between 40-45% of adults consider themselves shy. The takeaway? No matter where you are, there are likely people just as anxious as you are. Take your mind off your own worries and focus instead on making them feel more relaxed.
Pick a person you see standing alone and engage them in conversation. They’ll be thankful someone’s talking to them, and you’ll realize that at the end of the day, we’re all just looking to connect.